Someplace Upstate (yes, this is an actual place) is a large estate located in Marlboro, New York. The street address is listed in our "Travel" section. The ceremony (weather pending) will take place outside, as will cocktail hour, and the reception will be held inside a large barn. The building will not be climate controlled, so we encourage you to mind the weather.

You can RSVP digitally through your invitation. With loved ones from all over the world, this was the easiest way for us to get the information to and from you.

Although we know this will take swift decision making on your part, we will need your response by August 12th. Please feel free to contact us directly with any concerns regarding this timeline.

We strongly encourage folks to use the shuttle service which we will be offering for our guests. You may also drive straight to the venue if you have a car, as there is available parking. Please see our "Travel" section for more information on provided transportation.

Yes, we have. We have a room block at the hotel listed in our "Travel" section. As more of our guests book, more rooms will open up to us, so go ahead and reserve a room if you are planning to use our discounted rate.

Put simply, we want you to wear whatever you wish. Feel free to show up in pajamas if that is what feels most authentically you. We just want you to be comfortable, and present. No color or style preferences on our end. (For those requesting a dress code, cocktail attire.)

We are crossing our fingers that the day will offer crisp fall weather with temperatures around mid-60s. This has been the pattern historically, but we suggest you look at your local weather app as we get closer to the day. If there is inclement weather, we will be implementing a rain plan. Please note that there are no covered walkways to or from the barn from the parking areas on site.

Although we would love to be able to extend an invitation to all of our loved ones' partners, we are not having plus ones. The names of the guests that we have chosen to invite are specified on our save-the-dates and invitations. We appreciate your understanding.

While we absolutely love your babies (and we really do), we have had to strictly limit the number of children in attendance so that we can bring to life the adult party we envision. Unless the names of your children are specifically listed on your save-the-date and invitation, we kindly ask that you make other arrangements.

We will be offering passed canapés during cocktail hour, and a family style, sit down dinner with a singular protein and two sides. Dessert and coffee will be available later in the evening. We ask that guests with dietary restrictions (vegan, gluten-free, no red meat, etc.) please make a note when RSVPing, so that our caterers can plan accordingly.

If you know us, you know the answer to this question. Obviously yes.

We have decided not to create a registry as we quite simply do not need new things for our little NYC home at this time. Your presence is the greatest gift of all, and we know that many of you have made sacrifices to be in attendance. If you wish to give us a gift, we ask that you contribute to our Honeymoon Fund. There is a link on this website, which you can donate to if you feel so inclined.

We are planning to have the ceremony onsite at 4:30pm, cocktail hour will begin at 5pm, and dinner/dancing will start at 6/6:30pm and continue until 11pm.

We have not organized any official gatherings outside of the wedding day, so we encourage you to partake fully in the company (and the chaos) of the ceremony and reception.

It is deeply important to us that our folks be present with us for the day. We kindly ask that you refrain from using your devices during the ceremony, as we consider this to be a sacred space that we are sharing with those closest to us, and that you use them sparingly at the reception. It is our preference that the images of our wedding are not published on your social media accounts. We have hired brilliant photographers to capture the day, so we encourage you to let them do the cataloging so that you can do the partying.

The safety of our guests is our utmost concern. If you find yourself exhibiting Covid-19, flu, or cold symptoms, we ask that you get in touch with us directly so that we can formulate a plan that keeps everyone healthy. We will be having some elderly guests, a few young children, and a brand new baby with us. Protecting their well-being is paramount. Transparency is key, so please be honest with us.

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You are more than welcome to contact us directly. We know that the logistics surrounding weddings are complex, so please reach out via text, call, or email to us. We love you, and we want to help you in any way that we can.

We have people from all different walks of life joining us for this incredibly special day. We kindly ask that, regardless of your political, religious, or spiritual beliefs that you fully respect the authenticity and the humanity of each individual that will be present. While we do not all need to agree on how to best operate in the world, we ask that you keep your opinions to yourself, honor the boundaries of our beliefs, and lead with compassion. Our friends and family are an extension of who we are, and the events of the day require your respect for us and all of our people. Please honor that.